A Different View...

We-Feeling

In a hole in a grass covered hillside is a little rabbit, half hidden.

Its head and part of its body are visible.

Round its neck it has a little collar with two small bells.

It sits with crossed forepaws, quietly munching, looking round, wriggling its nose.

Cautiously it comes out, sniffing, and shows itself in its full glory.

It is beautifully snow white, only the little collar with the silver coloured bells is blue.

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The rabbit is the symbol of the we-feeling, because a rabbit feels best in a group.

The we-feeling implies that a human being thoroughly dislikes being alone. He conforms himself to a group, tries to be part of a group and thinks teamwork very important. By showing consideration for another and adapting himself to the group standard he thinks he can secure a position in a particular group and feels good about that. But we know that adapting is a form of survival. If you really listen to yourself, you are not a social person, you are an individualist.

The rabbit we showed was white because the human being experiences the we-feeling as pure.

And that ‘purity’ makes that he doesn’t want to change.

Every human is unique, every essence is unique. This tallies with the lesson of your essence and the possibilities you have as a human being.

Now it is as if we were laying into certain things, as the tendency of this society is that everyone must put up with everyone, one must get on very well with everybody and that social contacts are of the utmost importance in life. But because everyone is unique, we say: ‘Contact is nice, but not in order to conform to other people.’

We think that your force and your own possibilities are allowed to be clearly present. And only when a human is himself and the other one is also himself, they can find out whether they might help each other. But as long as the human adapts himself, he will never find out if there is anything that binds him to the other.

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When a human huddles in the we-feeling, we see that it is because he is scared to be alone, scared to be considered mad, scared to become an outsider, scared to be teased… scared to be seen as an outcast.

But it is actually this we-feeling that paves the way to these feelings.

In all sorts of facets of this society where people get together the we-feeling is the motive.

We see quite a few parents who think, We brought you up and now that we are elderly, we want you to look out for us and help us to render our old age a bit more pleasant. And that does not just go for the children but also the grand-children and everyone must go along in this family feeling.

This family feeling is the same thing as the we-feeling: we belong to one family and have the same surname.

When a human is in the we-feeling, he will always conform to the group rules, as no one wants to be the odd one out. If one belongs to a certain group, there will automatically be rules. The human applies these rules meticulously and through these rules he tries to reinforce his place within the group. We see that the human gives precedence to the group standards, and his own rules, his own possibilities come second. So he constantly adapts to what the group asks from him, wants of him.

We see many humans suffering under this we-feeling in the family. On the one hand the human wants to prevent this suffering, and hides safely in the we-feeling: then I will not attract attention, I just go along with the group; but on the other hand he belies his nature and there the suffering comes in.

By belying his nature, his character, but also by not taking his own lesson seriously the human gets into deep trouble.

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In club-life the we-feeling is also very much present. Because one wants the members to be present at club events. It is not just getting together on a Thursday afternoon to play billiards, but one is supposed to play billiards on Thursday afternoons and to enjoy every Thursday afternoon.

If one is a member of a club, what happens?

An organisation has to be set up and the members have to do that, of course. Notices are to be distributed, shopping is to be done… And here we have that we-feeling again. That is inherent to club-life.

But if you say: ‘I don’t want to bother with that, I don’t want to organise anything, let others do it, others that like that sort of thing’, you will certainly be blamed.

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Look at religions too. Religion is one big we-feeling. You probably grew up in a family, in an environment that adhered to a certain faith, a certain philosophy. You went to church when it suited you; sometimes you also had to go to a certain school with a certain philosophy. That was just how it was done, but you didn’t realise that the we-feeling predominated and you had no say whatsoever.

The togetherness and rules like ‘you are okay as a human if you do this and that, then you are a fully-fledged member of this church and you may participate’… is what we abhor.

We don’t want this we-feeling, because one thinks one knows what people are like through the religions, how God meant it, and if people would all follow the rules as described by the religions, the world will be okay.

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The human in the we-feeling thinks he knows how the other person feels.

Look at what happens when you tell a story… from the we-feeling the one sitting across will say: ‘Oh yes, I have that too’ and starts telling his own story, completely oblivious to your experience.

Someone in the we-feeling will also ask questions: ‘You are tired, aren’t you’, or: ‘You don’t feel okay, do you?’ and he hopes to be liked again in the group and re-enforce his position.

We also see that this human is strongly inclined to give counsel to his fellow men. He mostly has a blind spot for his own behaviour, but sees that behaviour very clearly in others. That is also part of the we-feeling.

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And thus we see a grey mass because everybody conforms. The numerous possibilities of the character are repressed, as the human has learnt early on: my family dislikes this particular character trait. So I must not scream, I must not dance, I must not wear conspicuous clothing, because the people in my surroundings will think that I make fools of them.

Instead of thinking, This human makes a fool of himself, the human in the we-feeling feels that the other makes a fool of him. That is the degree of sensitiveness of the human in the we-feeling.

The moment a human opts for the we-feeling, he feels vulnerable, otherwise, he doesn’t have to opt for it. He is scared of losing his place if he voices his own opinion. So he goes for the we-feeling, instead of holding on to his own standpoints and the human would rather disappear in the grey mass than be in his own power. You will notice how deeply the we-feeling is rooted in this culture, because the we-feeling belongs to the orange vibration. In the orange vibration the human takes his first steps in the process of consciousness.

And yet we see that the human who is advanced on his path always goes back to the we-feeling, so that he sinks into the orange vibration. This way he arouses that orange vibration again in his nervous system, and this vibration is much less fine than his actual vibration.

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All this has to do with one little rabbit. Realise how fast you are running after that rabbit.

The rabbit had a collar with two silver bells.

You know that silver stands for the essential consciousness. So if you get an impulse from inside: ‘I don’t feel like celebrating Christmas together’, stick to it. That is the impulse from your essential consciousness saying:

‘That doesn’t suit me now.’ But you saw two bells and two stands for the way of thinking. A human thinks, I actually don’t want that but, well, self-denial is more virtuous.

That is what you were taught in the upbringing, in religions: first conform to the other…

The collar round the neck of the rabbit shows that the human feels short of breath, feels he is suffocating himself, when he thinks like that.

We do hope that you will acquire a broader view, that you will say: ‘This stuff no longer, I am now going to be who I really am, because that rabbit doesn’t touch me anymore.’

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